The “YES” of Life

By Becki Balok

 

Don’t you wish you could take all the questions you have about your life to a seer, a psychic, a master, and get the answers you are seeking?   Of course, I’m assuming you are asking questions that direct you only in a positive way, such as:

“Should I write a book?”

“Should I start painting?”

“Should I visit a friend?”

“Should I change careers?”

“Should I quit my boring job?”

“Should I trust God?”

“Should I go out with xxx?”

“Should I call xxx?”

“Should I go to xxx on vacation?”

 

Many of us are unable to move forward because we don’t know the answers to the questions we’ve been carrying around all of our lives.  We keep waiting for that seer, that psychic, that master to tell us what to do, to direct us, to answer our questions.  And so, we read another book, attend a lecture, go to a weekend seminar all the while, the answers we are seeking are quietly waiting within us, but we don’t know it, so we keep on asking anyone who will listen, and we stay stuck.

 

Without clear answers to the questions of life, we put off writing, we don’t invest in the paint, we stay home alone. We keep going to jobs we don’t really like, and we believe that while we may have had some potential once, our ship may have passed us by.  We’ve missed our chance, our 15 minutes of fame, if we even had it, is over.  So we settle into the mundane, dreary routine of life.  We make ‘do’.  We lower our expectations.  We give up on our dreams.

 

What would you do, if the answer to every question you have about the positive direction of your life is, ‘YES”:

Yes, write a book. 

Yes, paint. 

Yes, visit a friend. 

Yes, change careers. 

Yes, quit. Yes, trust. 

Yes, go out.

Yes, make the call.

Yes, go on vacation.

 

Would you begin today to write, paint, visit, find a new job, plan a vacation?  Or, would you create another series of questions that would serve only to keep you stuck again, “How will I find the time?” or “How will I find the money?”

 

We live in a “YES” universe; the problem is most of us hear only a “NO”.  “No, you shouldn’t write, have you seen the bookstores lately, they are filled with books.”  “No, you shouldn’t paint, the great painters are all dead.”  You get the idea.   If we want to live the “Yes” of life, we need to stop living the “No”:   

 

Step 1:  Respond to every request for help with an unguarded, unconditional, “Yes”.   

 

Step 2: Whenever someone asks you to do something out of your comfort zone, say “Yes.”

 

When you experience closed doors, blocked paths, or stagnant dreams, it means one thing and one thing only, you must start saying “Yes” to every aspect of your life -- it’s what life is all about.

 

© Becki Balok, September 2002